I read a post today that triggered thoughts on dating.
The post I read (and somehow can't find to credit) was related to "Dating for Moms". I thought it had some clever ideas for how it described the "base" system:
1st base: An "organized" family activity (for example, a family event at daycare)
2nd base: An "organized" activity, but outside of the "normal" - such as one you schedule
3rd base: Hanging out at the other person's house for a playdate
4th base: Hanging out with the moms and no kids!
I'm sure I've taken several liberties with this list...
And I think as an adult, it's hard to "date"- or find friends. Of course, for me, it has always been hard. I've had countless parties where I invited many, only to have a small handful show up.
And to get all the dynamics just right (same socio-economic situation - for example - so when you want to or are able to suggest a "splurge" on something, you don't feel like you will make it a hardship on someone else..) and same or similar interests... there are just so many dimensions and dynamics when people are involved, that friendships are (or at least- can be) hard. Blech.
Since moving to North Carolina, though, I am feeling a bit more in-tune. I don't have a solid group of "running" friends, like I did in Texas, but I do know a couple of people I can call if I want or need to go on a bike ride. I found (created, really- with the help of several friends) a book club that rocks- and meets at one of the most stellar coffee shops in the city as an added bonus. And there are even a few of kiddo's friends mom's that I've gotten to know.
So slowly, I am learning the ropes in the area. Which is a good thing - - because it makes me a much happier person!
Up on the agenda soon? Swimming lessons for the kiddos!
